So I thought if there were any of you that had these same questions, I'd post a SAQ (sometimes-asked-questions) post. (And this feels easier right now for my fragile nearly 36-week pregnant mental state than having to form deeper thoughts into sentences...)
So here it is.
Are you going to have another c-section with Luke? I've actually never had a c-section. All of my babies have been delivered naturally, which I am very thankful for. So that's the plan for Baby Luke.
How do you feel about having another boy? Awesome. I can't hardly even stand the thought of having sweet little Luke in my arms, I feel like my heart will burst open from the happiness. Even if Luke had been a girl, there would never be a replacement for Grace. And seriously, if I get one more negative comment like Another boy??? or Well, a girl just must not be in the cards for you (that one happened a few days ago) or another sigh and look of disappointment, I will lose all my Christian goodwill. All of it.
Where do you feel like you're at now? This is a hard one. It honestly depends on which day you ask me. I still sometimes get super angry at the depth of her loss and all the should-have-beens and never-will-bes. And I still have very, very sad days; they're just not as frequent or as sustained as they were even not too long ago. Grief is a journey that continues on.
How was her birthday? Very, very, very sad. Seriously, I woke up and already wanted the day to be over. I was super thankful and blown away at how many people went by her resting place to leave notes and cards and flowers and cupcakes; it was the brightest spot of the entire day. But the whole of the day felt oppressive and heavy and sad. In fact, we took Sunday to simply recover from how emotionally taxing it was.
How are the boys? They're wonderful. They talk about Grace all the time and have finally (I think) gotten that Grace is in heaven with Jesus and Luke is in my belly. They are so excited to have their very own baby.
When are you due? End of May-ish, but you better believe I will be doing everything I can to "encourage" labor earlier.
I can't think of any other questions. I know, that was kind of anti-climactic. I'm telling you, 36 week-pregnant brain, it's fragile.
So I'll end with pictures from the most amazing baby shower my dear, dear friend, Courtney, threw for me this weekend. It was honestly one of the most beautiful events I have ever attended and I definitely felt a huge sense of unworthiness that it was all for us. Courtney has this very rare gift to not only create beautiful things but to combine the spiritual aspect as well, which brings a whole other depth of beauty and meaning. I love that I will have such meaningful things to hang in Luke's room because of it.
|This is Courtney. I am so sad this is the only picture I have of her that whole day and none of the two of us!|
|Seriously, so thinking beautiful!|
|This was the most amazing cake I have ever had. It had lemon and huckleberry filling. I'm dying now just thinking about it.|
|Courtney made everything you see, including that sign with the "L" which is already hanging in Luke's room.|
|This will also be hung in his room.|
|This is not even all the pregos that were there! And we're all from the same Bible study. At one point, literally 10 of the 20 or so girls were pregnant.|
|Writing cards and making coloring pages.|
|My beautiful mama on the left and one of my most beautiful friends, inside and out, sweet Rachel.|
|Three of my favoritest and funniest friends.|
|A selfie (don't judge) with Ali, whom I only love to the furthermost galaxy and back.|
|The food. The fruit kabobs. The apple slices topped with chicken salad and pecans. To die for. All of it.|
|My mom giving her most genuine smile.|
|The WORST shower game ever, and only because I had to participate. If I were just watching, the BEST shower game ever.|
|Waiting for the worst/best shower game ever.|
|Stop. You just wish you were so endowed with these kinds of moves at 9 months pregnant.|
|Kerstin and I KILLING it.|
|Laughing at the video. Ellie (in the denim vest) definitely won for Most Exuberant. I couldn't stop laughing when I watched her on the video. I'm very jealous of her moves.|
|Oh, I could never say enough about this girl. Sweet, beautiful Meghan who has one of the purest hearts of gold of anyone I've ever known. I hope I'm half as wonderful as her when I grow up. And she's a Baby Whisperer.|
I wish I'd gotten a picture with everyone there so I could personally highlight how wonderful each of them are. I am ridiculously blessed to know such awesome women, and to call them friends is even more amazing to me.
Courtney, you're an unsung hero in my life and there aren't enough adjectives in the world to describe how awesome you are and how thankful I am that we "randomly" met in a cell phone store (true story!). Thank you for making me feel so special and for honoring our little Luke's life in such a beautiful way!
And to each of you who came, thank you for celebrating with us and making the day so fun and special. I truly feel so blessed and honored to know such beautiful women.
So now we just wait for his arrival! Hopefully sooner rather than later...